#30: Be with people that will make you feel grateful
This weekend, I’ve been on this hike with people that I’ve never talked to much with before. We met once and that was enough for us to arrange a trip together in a place that no one really knew exactly where it was or how could we get there. Of course, I love hikes and that was enough for me to be really inclined to go but I’m sure if the people I was with weren’t as nice, I wouldn’t really go to it. But something about this group of people made me feel extremely excited about this journey and I found out at the end of the day what it was.
Besides the natural environment in which I was about to go, the companies are the one thing that makes any trip/adventure/experience good and enjoyable and not the actual location. If you are in a beautiful place with people that put you down and aren’t in the same vibration as you are, you better go by yourself (if you like your own company). Because, as the old phrase says, it’s not the destination that matters but what happens during the journey. Nowadays, we consider the end result of things a lot more than the development of that experience and, frequently, we end up frustrated about it.
If you recall some moments of your life, I’m sure you’re gonna find out that sometimes, if you feel frustrated, could be because you were expecting something from a certain situation and that didn’t work well: either a test, a relationship, a trip, an experience. It doesn’t matter: if we focus too much on the end goal, the process gets lost and the whole meaning of beginning a specific task gets fuzzy. In the end, we don’t even know why we started that task in the first place.
In moments like that, think about why you’re doing what you’re doing: why are you going on this hike, why are you studying this subject, why are you writing this blog? If you can’t find any reasons why you’re doing a specific task, you better rethink the very action of giving a lot of your time in the process of developing it. In this regard, people are the same.
When you are with your friends, do you feel they make you feel good in general and help you out or do you feel they are just there to fit a very specific function in your life? Maybe, if that function doesn’t get fulfilled, how are you going to feel towards that relationship? Was it pointless or do you feel like every moment of your time together was worth every minute of it? Looking back, do you feel frustrated or grateful for being together?
I asked those questions after I came back home from this day-long hike and, on top of the breathtaking views and contact with nature, I couldn’t be happier for spending that amount of time with people that made the journey light, enjoyable and fun. Whatever happens with those relationships that I created during this hike, I will always be blessed for being able to spend such an incredible moment with those people.
